The Real Reasons I Was Passed Over for a Promotion—And What I Did Next

Let me take you back to a moment that stung: I was passed over for a promotion I truly wanted. The disappointment was real. But what happened next turned out to be a game-changer—not just for my career, but for how I lead and coach others today.

This article isn’t just about climbing the ladder. It’s about claiming your power, even in moments that feel like a setback. Inspired by a popular infographic from Justin Mecham, I’m sharing what worked, what didn’t, and what you can do right now if you want that next role, recognition, or opportunity.

I Asked for the Promotion… and Heard “No.”
Like many professionals, I walked into that conversation with hope. I had worked hard, delivered results, and believed I was ready.

But the answer was no.

It hurt. But it also sparked something deeper.

Instead of staying stuck in frustration, I decided to take action. I asked for something else—a lateral move into a department I was passionate about. It came with a demotion, and yes, I hesitated. But I also realized something powerful:

Sometimes a step back is the boldest step forward.

I Made a Promise to Myself
No more being passive. No more assuming my work would “speak for itself.” I committed to being:

  • Intentional about my goals
  • Strategic in how I positioned myself
  • Patient enough to let the process unfold

Which of These 9 Ways Will You Start With?
Here’s the framework that helped me regroup and rise, adapted from Justin Mecham’s 9 Ways to Get Promoted—but with my coaching twist.

  1. Be Controversial — with Purpose
    You don’t grow by staying invisible. Share bold ideas. Speak up even when you’re the only one. Just back it up with clarity and data.
  2. Plant the Seed
    Talk about promotion before you think you’re ready. Have the conversation 60–90 days in advance. Ask what skills or outcomes would get you there.
  3. Spread Positivity
    It’s not fluff. Optimism, enthusiasm, and emotional control are leadership skills. People want to promote those who make teams stronger.
  4. Find a Sponsor
    You need more than mentors. A sponsor is someone who advocates for you when you’re not in the room. Find them. Earn their trust. Ask for support.
  5. Advance Your Skills
    Take the course. Get the certification. Read the book. Show you’re investing in your growth—even before anyone else does.
  6. Do Lateral Roles
    My “demotion” was a lateral move that changed everything. It expanded my network, challenged my thinking, and led to a promotion two levels up.
  7. Solve Problems
    Be the one who makes things easier, smoother, and more efficient. If you’re a solution-finder, people will notice—and reward—you.
  8. Get Noticed
    Visibility matters. Share wins with humility and context. Speak at meetings. Volunteer for projects. Make your work easy to see.
  9. Ask for It
    Don’t wait for someone to “discover” you. Be direct. Advocate for yourself. Be ready with evidence—and courage.

The Outcome? Two Levels Up.
By applying these strategies, I didn’t just recover—I soared. A year later I was offered a role two levels above the one I originally wanted. Not because I waited. Because I acted.

This put me on an unbelievable journey which led to global roles that paved the path for a C-suite position that I ultimately decided not to pursue. Instead I decided to exit my very successful corporate career to Lead a Life of No Regrets

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Final Thoughts
Getting promoted isn’t just about checking boxes. It’s about owning your value and taking bold steps—even when it’s uncomfortable.

So, what’s your next move? Which of the 9 will you try first?

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Want to see the original inspiration behind this deeper dive? Check out the LinkedIn post and graphics here.